Cold Feet? Getting Over Wedding Day Jitters

I do….or, do I? Pre-Wedding Jitters are very common and most brides (and grooms) start to get worried if they are making the right decision! We are all familiar with the term “cold feet….a feeling of worry or doubt that is strong enough to stop you from doing something that you planned to do”.  Following your instinct is good; but before you cancel the caterer and hop on the next plane out of town, take a few moments to find out what is making you so anxious.

runaway_bride_v2Are you freaking out because it might rain, the food will be cold, or something more substantial like questioning whether you will be a good wife or husband and whether you can stay committed for life?  

Your new marriage is not doomed because you have “cold feet”, you just need to figure out what is causing your anxiety.  Many nervous brides are bombarded by people constantly asking them about their plans and saying, “Are you nervous about the Big Day?”.  With all these constant questions, it is no wonder a calm, under control bride becomes anxious.  Is there a serious issue or just society making you feel like you should be nervous?

If you are starting to feel anxious about your upcoming wedding, take a deep breath and evaluate what is causing these jitters.  Left unaddressed, these little jitters will become stronger and stronger and can even lead to physical symptoms such as difficulty sleeping or even stomach issues. If your anxiety goes beyond some of the following common causes, sit down with your fiancé or a counselor before saying, “I do”.

Rain, Rain, Go Away! Unless your name is Mother Nature, you have no control of what the weather will be on your wedding day.  Constantly checking the weather adds unnecessary stress to your wedding planning.  Set the date and make a plan for any adjustments in case of rain.  Address this once and move on.

Photographers, The DJ/Band, The Florist, The Reception Venue…You are relying on so many other people to pull off this big event!  The worries associated with everyone doing their job according to your plans are probably at the top of your list! Be sure to book professionals who have wedding experience and leave the details in their capable hands. When it comes to the Wedding Reception, using an experienced caterer to handle all the details should put you at ease.  Meet with the Wedding Coordinator at the Venue well in advance to discuss your vision, ask questions, and get a signed contract to confirm date and pricing.

Money, Money, Money!  Nothing is more stressful than blowing the wedding budget you initially set!  When setting your budget, be realistic.  Don’t set a budget of $200 for flowers if your choices will end up costing you $2,000.  Research costs from local vendors before determining your budget.  Once you have come up with the budget, add 20% to cover unexpected expenses and then stick closely to that budget.  Don’t let money worries consume your day.  This is a day for you and your spouse to celebrate with friends and family….blowing your budget will only lead to continued post wedding stress.

Does This Dress Make Me Look Fat? Most women have the subconscious worry about
their body type and how their wedding dress looks on them.  They wonder, should I have dieted more? Chosen a Different Style? Exercised More?  The questions can go on and on; but keep in mind, your fiancé is marrying you for you, not because of how you look in your wedding gown!

In Laws, Out Laws and Everyone in Between!  Celebrating your day with family is one of the most important things you can do.  Nevertheless, it can also be one of the most stressful parts of your wedding.  Relatives wanting their “little darling” to be part of your bridal party can be a difficult situation to deal with. To ensure an enjoyable day, lay out your wedding plans to family members, explaining that you would love to include everyone as part of your bridal party; but unfortunately, it’s just not possible.  Family needs to be understanding and be on their best behavior for your day!  In the case of divorced parents, make your day run smoothly by meeting with family members in advance and discussing who they are sitting with and what pictures you would like taken together.  Get everyone on the same page in order to eliminate wedding day chaos!

Who Me? The Center of Attention? It is “your day”.  However, the stress of being the center of attention can be overwhelming, especially when it comes time to say your vows. If being showered with attention all day makes you uncomfortable, keep in mind you are surrounded by family and friends…the people who know you best. With the support of your spouse and having them share 50% of the attention, relax and enjoy.

Running out of “tomorrow’s” – Procrastination can be the down fall of being calm for your wedding day.  Many weddings are planned over a year in advance so there is plenty of time to get things done.  Make a list of “to do’s” with reasonable deadlines, delegate where necessary, and get moving on that list!

Absolutely Perfect! Every bride and groom want the Perfect Day, but life happens and things don’t always go according to plan.  Eliminate unnecessary stress by taking the word “perfect” out of your vocabulary.  Plan to the best of your ability and go with it…enjoy the day and remember, the focus is on celebrating the beginning of your new life together!bride and groom

Still have “cold feet” about your wedding?  Maybe you just need a warmer pair of socks!

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Wedding Venues: The 1st Appointment!

“First Appointments” with wedding reception venues are so important! As I mentioned in our first blog post, not only do I plan weddings professionally at Capriotti’s, but I’m a soon-to-be-Bride planning my own wedding. This has certainly helped me in helping the couples we meet – trust me, I can relate! Check out this short video I posted to YouTube where I let you know how to get the most out of your First Appointments.

One of the first major decisions you’ll make together is where to have your Wedding & Reception. These events will produce some of the most cherished memories of your life, moments shared with family, friends and each other – the most important people in your lives. A wedding is one of life’s major “purchases” – each dollar & each minute can be spent just once. Of course you want value – but the results have to be nothing less than – breathtaking!

I’m sure you have some places in mind. Check them out – do some research! Look at the Homepages, Facebook and Pinterest. Each venue will feature on their pages what they feel are their strengths. Then compare that to reviews on Facebook, Google or sites dedicated to Weddings, such as Wedding Wire or The Knot. Read the reviews carefully – notice the types of words people use to describe their experiences. The words that are used over and over begin to offer a good idea how people view that venue. Do the words used describe excellence – or do they give you the “just OK” vibe? Now it’s “show and tell” time! Do the pictures “show” what the words “tell”? This is a great way to help decide whether a wedding venue can match your vision.  Now it’s time to schedule a time to tour the facility and have the “First Appointment.”

Aside from what I discussed in the video, other general observations can be made. Are Weddings the primary function of that venue or are they a “side” business? What is included in the Wedding packages – for example, is there a bridal room and is there an added fee for it’s use? Does the venue help with the table/room/display set-ups – or will you need to do it yourself or hire an outside vendor? How is the food and are there tasting appointments so you can sample the menu selections? Who will you be working with – and how will you stay in touch through the planning or if you have questions?  In other words – how “personal” does it feel? Does it feel like your reception will be customized to your vision or will your day will have to match theirs? How much staff will be on hand – this is a key! At Capriotti’s Weddings, we guarantee 1 server for every 10-12 guests. Have you ever been at a Wedding where half the room is eating and the other half waiting – then half the room ready to dance while the others were just served – inadequate staffing can disrupt your entire schedule.

Finally – DON’T ASSUME! Ask! Most venues have special packages for Fridays or Sundays or off-peak months. Last year we had a Wedding Focus Group where one bride told us she selected another venue because she assumed she couldn’t afford ours. She later learned otherwise from a friend who was engaged – don’t be in the “had I known then what I know now” boat.  The more informed you are, the happier you’ll be wherever your “Happily Ever After” begins!

If you have any questions or issues you’d like to see addressed in future posts, just leave a comment! Finally, here are some great planning tools that can help you choose your venue, plan your budget, and select the vendors for services you need. Talk with you soon!






Welcome to Our New Blog!!

Hi, I’m Cortney Zimmerman, Assistant Director of Events at Capriotti’s, where I’ve seen so many amazing Wedding Receptions!  Every day I get to help people plan the biggest day of their lives.  I get chills watching those dreams come true when the day finally arrives. I love being part of what really is a love story – for the couple being married & for their families and friends.  It’s where Daddy dances with his little girl or the Mother of the Groom with her dashing son as she remembers the smell of baby shampoo on his hair all those years ago – it seems like yesterday. It’s where newlyweds share their first dance and dinner together as a married couple in front of the most important people in their lives. It’s at these moments, at these times, at this place – that’s magic!

That magic – as you know – is years in the making with literally hundreds of decisions in all of the planning.  You can’t afford to not have Capriotti’s on your list of places to see once you’re engaged – it’s one of the first decisions an engaged couple make together and it is crucial. Capriotti’s Palazzo in McAdoo (minutes from Hazleton & I-81) is a beautiful, modern, fully-accessible facility built in 2012.  Let me guide you through some resources that show you who we are!

Capriotti’s Palazzo has hosted hundreds of Wedding Receptions since moving here from Capriotti’s Hall in Tresckow four years ago.  We’ve also hosted Wedding Ceremonies in the Palazzo, as well as in the new outdoor covered patio area which was built during the summer of 2015.  We don’t do “cookie-cutter” Weddings! The entire Palazzo becomes your home for the day, fully customized to your vision!

One of the most important points I’d like to emphasize is that all Wedding Packages are not made equal. Be sure to know what’s included – and what’s not!  At Capriotti’s, all of our Wedding Packages include items or services that other venues add-on to the original cost.  Be sure to ask – don’t assume! Use “Questions for Your Event Venue” from our Homepage and other fantastic guides you’ll find there.

Use the Wedding Planning Tools, the Wedding Budget Planner and  Wedding Checklist.  Finally, check our Recommended Vendors for other services you may need. Finally, follow us on Facebook, Pinterest, and YouTube where you can check out videos like this!

Oh, one more thing about me you might be interested to know. Long before I began working here at Capriotti’s – I booked my Wedding Reception here. The old saying is “People plan, God laughs” – and my wedding was postponed. We finally set a new date, equipped with a flower girl that is the apple of our eyes, for April of this year, so I know what it’s like to be a very soon-to-be bride!  I chose Capriotti’s for my Wedding Day – twice – so I’m uniquely able to share my experiences with you as we plan your big day!

Please, feel free to leave a comment or question here, email me, or give me a call. I’ll be happy to help!